Let the healing happen in closed encounters….

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Sometimes, you cry in a stranger’s arms precisely because they are a stranger.You let your secrets be witnessed because the witnesses are outside of your every day reality.You get spiritually naked because it’s a moment that’s only ever going to be a moment.You dance like no one is watching because they won’t see you again.
One night stands….sexual, spiritual, emotional….can serve a divine purpose.

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I was in Shillong with a friend, we were drinking margaritas at an outdoor cafe. “A smoke would go good with this tequila,” she said. So I asked the woman at the table next to me if we could bum one. She and her husband had been chain smoking for the past hour, so at that point I was also thinking, If you can’t fight ‘em, join ‘em.

“How goes the holiday?” I asked. And, dazed-but-factly, she said, “We had a baby last week, he died mysteriously after birth.” The husband lit another smoke, “We’re here to numb out.” That horrible truth-sharing sealed us. We sat in silence…but not the silence of shock, the silence of unity. The sun was going down.

“What did you name the baby?” I asked. I wanted to make it real, not flinch and create distance with sympathetic formalness like, I’m sorry for your loss. She told me what they named him. Without us asking, more poured out. The colour they painted his room. How the hospital nurses cried when he passed over, “Which is surprising because nurses never cry, you know.”

And then I did it. To be polite, to be attentive and social….I gave them my phone number as we parted. It seemed like the compassionate thing to do. But actually, it felt gross. The more conscious act would have been to leave gracefully..let it be the interlude it was meant to be. Instead, I breached the sacred container.

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This kind of over-stepping happens a lot after personal development workshops. People share, and weep, and move in profound ways and naturally, the group bonds in that intimacy. Then the workshop wraps and half of the room wants to be friends for life, and the other half can’t wait to get in their rental cars and peel outta there. And too often — out of social decorum — and the genuine high of connection, somebody says it, “Let’s keep in touch!” Or worse, someone wants to set up a fucking Facebook group so everyone can keep in touch every day forever and ever.

Healing happens in protected space. Sometimes that protection comes from fleeting encounters.
So let it be fleeting….it takes a kind of courage to pass in the night, exchange sorrows and float away. Bless it instead of anchoring it to obligation. Something sacred just happened, allow it to be just that…

Courtesy: Danielle Laporte

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